Strange wife behaviour,any ideas?

I'm sorry you've been going through so much. It sounds very unfair to you as the good husband you appear to be. I'm sorry to be the one to tell you but it seems your marriage has an expiration date. I think it's time you contact a Divorce Attorney. Your story gives the impression she's only after your money and Citizenship. Ask yourself " How can I stay married to a woman who isn't willing to work on our marriage ? "